Maybe a death of a child or spouse, a job loss which has seen you financially devastated even homeless? Maybe a sudden divorce which smacks you in the face like a tidal wave and smashes you against the rocks of life.
A friend just recently lost her child through a long and protracted illness, needless to say we can never really put into words how people cope with such a loss.
Back in my early years my sisters twin was taken suddenly at one year old. Her death was unexpected and devastating. Her surviving twin, my sister, was at a complete loss and constantly called her name wandering the house looking for her 'other half'.
At the time Gail died everyone seemed to have an answer - but there was no miracle happening here - the fevers, the gasping for every breath. the pleading in her little eyes for unanswered questions continued until she lapsed into unconsciousness and remained so until she passed away.
The most influential events in our lives we don't see coming - they hit us like a tsunami - we can't go under, around or over - we have to go through it. When we go through these things we go through shock and struggle - we can never forget these times.
Tragic, sad and confronting and we, in our desperation, shock and yes, even anger, call out WHY?? - WHY GOD???
I know I have asked that question over and over again - Why this? - Why that?
I was still asking that question when I stumbled upon a testimony by Jeremy Camp - here is the link. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tFLFFBhcUEM - copy and paste it and I am sure it will blow you away as it did me.
Jeremy lost his wife of five months to cancer and he too asked the question WHY? WHY GOD? - He was astounded when the answer came back to him that "I don't want you to know why - I want you to walk by faith - keep trusting me"
As a Christian we walk by faith - and faith alone - If we knew exactly why God does what He does - our faith would be meaningless and we would be walking with Him only by sight and never by faith.
Our fears and anxiety can be tremendous - they can swamp us! - We often find it so difficult to believe God when he says to us - "Hold my hand and I will guide you" - we are so fearful - so full of questions - so often angry.
Walking by faith often - so often, involves going down the broken roads of life - to places we are so far out of our depth - places where we are groping along blind and bewildered. Yet God's promises are sure and steadfast.
We need to be brought to a place - brought to a point where we are truly dependant on Him to see us through - that is indeed walking by faith.
God has made amazing promises and it is through our faith and trust in Him that we can throw ALL of our troubles and trials on Him.
Often through our fears and anxiety we are driven to prayer and it is here that we can win over these seemingly endless fears.
God has been faithful - He has never promised us an easy road - not any of us - BUT He has promised to see us through if we keep on trusting Him. Colossians 1:13 "He has delivered us from the domain of darkness and transferred us to the kingdom of His beloved Son."
We are very often taken to rock bottom before we can fully trust God - and I certainly don't pretend to understand why. It is through those 'bomb blast' moments that we can come face to face with what real trust and faith in God truly means.
It is truly ironic that a vast number of us start our journey with God through some sort of crisis and we will all face some sooner or later. It is a known fact that we either know of someone who is facing a crisis - we are facing one ourselves or sadly unbeknown to us we will be facing one in our lives very shortly.
There is no escape from this old world and it's trials and tribulations but through these very hardships we can grow our faith like nothing else can.
Through our trials we can renew our confidence in God instead of being angry at Him. Through our trials we can be brought to place of continual repentance which in turn brings us closer to Him.
In an overwhelming crisis many of us falter and our faith is small - Please do not be afraid of small faith - it is through faith no matter how small that we come to God - our very weakness in falling at his feet brings glory to Him and freedom for us.
Yes of course there will be huge consequences of shock and grief - many tears will fall and we will carry scars maybe for years.
Jesus carried scars as well - He carried scars of grace and what he did for all of us on that terrible/wonderful day has had astounding and incredible consequences and will do for eternity.
We all can have hope in God even though our hope may not be what we thought it would have been or what is happening in our lives today. Please don't walk away from hope - please believe with all that you have that what has been broken can be restored - This is NOT the end of our story.
How about this verse in 1 Corinthians 15:43 "Our bodies are buried in brokenness, but they will be raised in glory. they are buried in weakness, but they will be raised in strength"
Or this one in 2 Corinthians 1:9-10 "But this happened that we might not rely on ourselves but on God, who raises the dead. He has delivered us from such a deadly peril, and he will deliver us again."
Amazing promises from our amazing God.
Please listen and turn to Christ in whatever has been thrown at you - Please don't lose your hope in God - throw every bit of your trust and faith to God.
The world is full of broken hearts and minds - give yours to our amazing healer - He WILL see you through it.
God bless you as struggle with turning your scars into stars with Jesus.